My Three Parents
My mother died 13 years ago this month at the very young
age of 62. I can remember vividly how devastated we were.
Me, my three siblings and our wonderful step father were
just stumbling around,lost without our beloved mother and
matriarch.It was a long time before any of us came to terms
with loosing her. Still, I don't think any of us is ever going to
be totally over it.
Those of us that were blessed to know Lu(Tootie)Workman/
Cox/Sizemore knew that she somewhat marched to the beat
of a different drummer and led her immediate family as she
seen fit.
Over her short lifetime mommy was two people:
Lu Sizemore and Tootie Workman Cox.
Mom was married two times,first to my father for 23 years and
to my stepfather for 24 years.(My Stepfather, is now
called 'Poppa.' Over the years he has certainly earned and
commanded this honorific).Poppa is still right here with us.
Upon visiting with him one would think that Mommy had just
went down the street for a moment and will be back any time.
When asked about why he remains at the head of our family
and never moved on he simply says he is keeping a life promise
of love to Mom. He hasn't so much as looked at another woman
in 13 years. Mom was wise, she married a younger man the
second time as if she knew that when she passed that we would
still need a parental figure even as we all entered into our 50s.
Thank god for my Pop!
Mom's ex-husband of 24 years, my father called to console me
the day Mom passed. My Daddy was sincerely hurt and he
pained for his children as well. He said to me,"Oh son! I wish I
was with you right now. I would scoop all four of you up and hold
you all so tight!"
What a great man Carlos Cox,my father, was! He knew just what
to say! This was how we were going to get through these hurtful
times. We needed only to embrace each other and remember that
the four of us was unique; we were still a family. Dad also passed
7 years later; another devastating blow to the four of us. Our lives
are different and a little sad without them, but we consider the
blessings of having them as parents
.
How can I ever live up to these three people?
age of 62. I can remember vividly how devastated we were.
Me, my three siblings and our wonderful step father were
just stumbling around,lost without our beloved mother and
matriarch.It was a long time before any of us came to terms
with loosing her. Still, I don't think any of us is ever going to
be totally over it.
Those of us that were blessed to know Lu(Tootie)Workman/
Cox/Sizemore knew that she somewhat marched to the beat
of a different drummer and led her immediate family as she
seen fit.
Over her short lifetime mommy was two people:
Lu Sizemore and Tootie Workman Cox.
Mom was married two times,first to my father for 23 years and
to my stepfather for 24 years.(My Stepfather, is now
called 'Poppa.' Over the years he has certainly earned and
commanded this honorific).Poppa is still right here with us.
Upon visiting with him one would think that Mommy had just
went down the street for a moment and will be back any time.
When asked about why he remains at the head of our family
and never moved on he simply says he is keeping a life promise
of love to Mom. He hasn't so much as looked at another woman
in 13 years. Mom was wise, she married a younger man the
second time as if she knew that when she passed that we would
still need a parental figure even as we all entered into our 50s.
Thank god for my Pop!
Mom's ex-husband of 24 years, my father called to console me
the day Mom passed. My Daddy was sincerely hurt and he
pained for his children as well. He said to me,"Oh son! I wish I
was with you right now. I would scoop all four of you up and hold
you all so tight!"
What a great man Carlos Cox,my father, was! He knew just what
to say! This was how we were going to get through these hurtful
times. We needed only to embrace each other and remember that
the four of us was unique; we were still a family. Dad also passed
7 years later; another devastating blow to the four of us. Our lives
are different and a little sad without them, but we consider the
blessings of having them as parents
.
How can I ever live up to these three people?
